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triggers a thought...

..a thought tt has always been in mind.. (I didn't say everyone) but I realised this "phenomenon" in some guys.. tt when they set their "target" at a girl, they regard tt girl as their goddess & think tt if they got her, they're going to treat her like queen or watever... but once they got the person, everything'll be different.. It wouldn't be so "ideal"... the feelings, actions & all tt'll shows....

On d other hand, if they didn't manage to win the girl's heart, they'll be bothered by it for a long long period.. I came across frds who had a few more r/s aft & still think back of the past of a particular person they hoped to be with but didn't.. It seems to be hunting them forever.. This is scary... I can't imagine how "devoted" they r in their subsequent r/s!

But once again this proves the theory that "de bu dao de yong yuan shi zui mei de"~ "forbidden fruit tastes sweetest.."

Recently, from 93.3... there was this guy who dedicated a song to a girl.. the song's "tong hua" by the way but it got nth to do w/ this.. He wrote a letter... don't rmb all the contents but there's sth like.. "I've done so much for u... don't u know? don't you feel it?... aren't u touch?..." bla bla bla.... At tt time when I hear it, it sounds alright... but aft a few moments, ei.. no ley sth was very wrong.....Why do guys hv this "believe" tt if they've done a lotsa things for a girl OR show how much they love tt girl OR proved aft "this" long, their feelings hv nt change etc... & tt girl muSt/ gOnna be touched by their actions somehow, some day & in rtn, a r/s w/ them???

Oh nO, wrong concept wrong concept.. No offence again, but in my view, if tt girl really accept u simply for wat u did for them, this's jus gonna sympathy... That "touched" has got nth to do w/ true love.. Ah huh, unless u go for the theory tt love can be "pei2 yang3"..like those traditional blind dates..those who nv geta see their bride till the day of marriage...

From my pt of view, when doing something for someone (even btw normal friends), we shdn't hv the thought of hoping to get sth in return.. I really feel that if someone were to do sth, make sacrifices & etc while on d other hand expecting to gain sth, it's a mOtive.

[In general, I can't accept the fact where we shall not trust everybody from the begining, then slowly gain trust along the way. In fact, it's exactly opp for me... I would rather choose to trust everyone from the beginning till if anyone betrays me.. I find tt life would be too tiring if we were to live w/ a "suspicious mindset" everyday (Err the "apple gangs" etc aside hor, we do hv to be alert!). Yes, we'll be more likely to be hurt this way but we don't set a kinda "barrier" to everyone... & Looking from anoth perspective, u geta see the true colour of a person sooner.. I noe it's hard to trust a person totally, but if tt person lies, cheats or take u for granted, it's his/her fault. Trusting by itself has nth wrong.]

Real life examples again, know of some frds who hv more or less similar cases: liked a girl, got rejected by her, girl gets on life w/ feW more relationships, ev time she breaks up w/ her bf, the guy'll think tt he may stand a chance & therefore make confessions again, show extra concerns bla bla, rejected again but still don't give up, even resort to setting targets to make ownself looks better & etc, hoping for some miracles to happen... Er erm, I.. I....really don't know what to say.... Maybe tt's call 'chi1 qing2' or 'qin2 chi1'?? Sometimes, I really feel like saying this to them: If u two were meant to be tog, u've long been tog, nt aft rejections and rejections, wAke uP!! Even if one day, the girl like u coz of ur change in looks or when u got richer or wat, is this really worth it? Is this what u want?? Is this real happiness?

No ans. Perhaps this is all abt WiLL... Everyone can choose how they wanna live their life... Just hope that all of us would lead a life with no regrets! ChEErS!!!~
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Love is not abt fairness.. It's not abt how much u give or how much u receive... In the first place, why would u wan to measure? Wat can be measured? How can it be measured? Where's the pt that would mean satisfactory?

posted by XiaO dinG dAnG @ 3:06 PM